Yes. Headlights and R3 must be connected in parallel.So I make 2 connections from the R3 (3&16) and then I split the 2 connections (2 per headlights, so total 4?)
If you already have LED headlights, the easiest way is to add another pair of wires to the BDC pins and connect them to R3. So, two pairs of wires will go out of BDC pins 43 and 44. One pair for the headlights, the other for the camera.